August 16th, 2019

Just for you: A quiz, a pledge, and a promise

Or: How to harvest wisdom this fall

A few weeks ago, I pledged to stop saying and thinking “I’m busy” or “I don’t have time” or “I’m overwhelmed.”

Which means I’m now noticing how much I think and say, “I’m busy,” “I don’t have time” and “I’m overwhelmed.” 🤪

Why are we all so busy? And what can we do to shift from super busy to simply being (while getting things done with ease…)

Fall is a great time to get our internal house in order for the “back to school” season. Even though most of us are probably not going back to school in September, the autumn season brings an energy of going inward and starting a new cycle of deepening. Summer is almost over and now it is time to get back to work. (If you are in the southern hemisphere: Yay Spring is coming! Time for Spring cleaning and sloughing off the energy of Winter.)

The Fall season is about the harvest, and gathering the lessons of our experiences. If we don’t look back on our actions with curiosity and a broad perspective, i.e., without judgment, how can we learn what to change in our actions? If we keep doing the same thing over and over again, how will we ever get out of our ruts and habits?

And so, for this coming season I propose that we all pledge to explore how we can stop being busy and start being wise.

The first step is to take this quiz to see where you are out of balance in your warrior or goddess energy (the quiz is applicable to all genders!) It will take you just a few minutes to complete, and your answers will give you some valuable information on where you are empowered, in excess, or in deficiency.

Take the quiz now

Now, what pledge will you make to help you shift your patterns? Remember that changing ingrained habits is not a one-time quick fix, but a willingness to dedicate yourself to be aware and make new choices over and over again.

Here are some pledge ideas:
I pledge to:

do one thing each day that scares me.
build compassion for myself and others.
soften my hard edges by being curious rather than judgmental
shift procrastination by doing one hard task each day.
refrain from care taking others.
make myself a priority.
break the habit of trying to fix and help everyone else.
get guidance help heal my victim self.
find a mentor or friend to remind me of my strengths.
be more in service to others.
meditate in the mornings.
start exercising again.
slow down 10% in everything that I do.
go for more long walks without trying to figure everything out.

Pick one or two things, at the most, to pledge yourself to. Write your pledge out:

August 2019
I pledge to xxxx.

Now, it doesn’t help to punish or judge yourself if you slip up, which is why you need to make an additional promise to yourself:

I promise to do my best.

You can also add two words that will help you balance the warrior and goddess energies within you, for example:
I promise to do my best, with fierce compassion.
I promise to do my best, with loving kindness.
I promise to do my best, with courageous joy.
I promise to do my best, with focused creativity.

Now add to your paper:
August 2019
I pledge to xxxx.
I promise to do my best, with xxxx.

Then sign your name.

Put this piece of paper someplace you can see it so that you can be reminded of your focus. When you make a mistake or forget your pledge, simply take note of what happened and start again. Let every mistep teach you a little bit more about how to support yourself in your pledge rather than using each mishap to feel bad about yourself.

Then comes Fall Equinox (September 21st in the northern hemisphere). Review your pledge and either renew or rewrite it. This will give you the time to practice, get clarity, and recommit between now and Fall Equinox (or Spring Equinox in the southern hemisphere.)